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writes:I need your advice. My problem is and had always been my bf's ex. When my bf and I started dating they were still seeing each other, then he promise me that he had no feeling for her and that everything was over between him and her. That was at the begining of 2005. Then, he moved out to another state and I would go visit him a lot. I know that he never actually told her that he was with me and he never broke up with her, she did after he lied to her so many times because he was with me. Ever since our relationship had been a roller coaster. He talks to his ex. and wants her back, but she says no, but then he continues calling her and going after her. All of this I know but I had never confronted him; only on a couple of occasions because I love him and I am always hoping that he would get over her and we'll be together happilly ever lasting.Unfortunately, this is the 3rd year and my bf and his ex are still talking like if he had no relationship at all. Today, he sent her an email that said: Jennifer: that voicemail that you left me was very nasty and rude and i'll save it. I called you saturday the whole day, called your house, and called you at work on monday and you never answered my calls. Who do you think you are? you have no right to treat me like this. well I am never going to call you ever, and no I am not getting marry 'cause I don't have a brigemate. I am tired of going after you......"""Then she replied right after, but he has not checked the message and don't know wheteher to delete it or not to put an end to this..What do you all think...
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 January 2008):
 I'd let him know that you know what's going on, you don't appreciate being played, and will not be there for his game playing. You don't deserve to be in the middle of these people. Stop contact with him, and find someone wants to be with you for you, and won't play these games.
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reader, Dawnie  +, writes (21 January 2008):
 Well personally i could not be with someone who is still hung up about his ex. He seems to have an obsession with her and to be honest your relationship does not stand a chance and never has done. Do yourself a favour and get rid of him, in time you will meet someone else who wants to put you first in his life. That's the way it should be.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): Wow! If he can't even tell her YOU'RE his new woman and he plans to be with you, he has a major problem of denial OR he's just using you! Or, more likely, both. Make him make a choice once and for all - and, if he can't, make your own choice.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (21 January 2008):
 By being with him, you are hurting yourself a great deal. Three years and he's still obsessed with her? It sounds like he wants what he can't have and he can't see that he has a good woman right beside him, supporting him and loving him. It's time to give him the ultimatum. Its either you or her. I know how scary it is because he might choose her but you can't just keep giving of yourself and not recieving anything in return. After everything is said and done, it's your decision. Do you want to be with man who loves another woman and acts like what the two of you have like its nothing?
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