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writes:guys!is it true that a guy would dump a girl is she's shy to make the first move or anything?but some girls can be like that because all they wanna do is talk or go out not make out at his house everytime they're alone?
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reader, Odds  +, writes (29 December 2011):
 I tend to date shy girls, but only if I think they'll come out of their shell for someone they know better. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. That said, some guys aren't into that - some guys prefer extroverts, and there's nothing wrong with them for doing that. You'll want to start by finding a man who likes introverted girls.
Even if you're with a man who likes shy girls, it's worth it to make the effort to show him that you appreciate his efforts and are attracted to him. Many girls show a lack of interest by not responding to his efforts, rather than by rejecting them outright - but sometimes shy girls do the same thing, even when they are attracted.
On a physical level, sex is one of the things I look for in a relationship. All the sex in the world wouldn't keep me in an emotionally dead relationship, and all the emotional intimacy in the world wouldn't keep me in a sexless one. I think I'm more patient than most guys about how long I'll wait before physical stuff starts happening, but every guy has his own limit. You both have to compromise - if you don't want to make out every time you're alone, then you have to kiss often enough (at home or elsewhere) that he feels assured of your physical attraction. Try discretely squeezing his butt when you're out, or sneaking a kiss here and there, or just holding onto his arm when you're walking once in a while. If he knows that you're attracted, and that you're waiting on sex for yourself and not because of a lack of interest in *him*, then he won't feel the need to confirm that you're still attracted to him - so there will be less pressure on you.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (29 December 2011):
 Personally I find shy girls very attractive but there does have to be some sort of balance between the physical and emotional sides of the relationship. I wouldn't stay with a girl if she never wanted or never showed that she was interested in me sexually because it would lead to me thinking that she is not attracted to me.
There is a balance to these situations. If all a girl wants to do is talk then she is a friend and if it is all physical then you know what I am thinking.
I was dating a girl who would never really make the first move and to be honest it got frustrating because a guy likes to know that his girl is into him.
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