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writes:hello, My boyfriend of almost a year and a half cheated on me with a girl 10 years younger (i'm 29, she is 19, HE is 30!!) I threw him out and he is off with her I guess. This question is just a back story as I'm dealing with that better than I thought...I guess it had been bad and I didn't want to see it. I then started hanging out (probably too soon I know) with a guy I had known for a while. We will call him "Rockstar" since he lives that life style and has women after him all the time. We would hang out and he took me to movies and we talked in my car for 3 hours about our dreams and all that crap. It was going great and suddenly "Rockstar" backed off even though the last time we hung out (2 weeks ago) was awsome. He invited me to movies when I thought he lost interest but I was at work and could not go (he did not know my schedule). I told him when I would be off but he did not call or text. He has asked a couple times since then if I was home but I was at work but when I said when I was home, I got no call or text. I know he can be busy so I blew it off. He texted couple days later to say he hoped I had been good and that he had been busy and gave me some updates. I told him I had been busy too but then I did not hear from him after that all weekend. Today I texted him about my new haircut and he wanted a pic so I sent one and he said "wow, it looks good" and i said "thanks" and then nothing. He has a big "event" coming up so I know he is busy but no one is that damn busy. I sent a text an hour after and it said this " I miss ya but I won't bug you anymore. You know where to find me. Good luck on your "event" but I know you don't need it :)". I felt I had to be the one to let go. I guess if he responds which he has not (i sent it a couple hours ago) I'll know if he wants to be free or is not into me or met someone else or whatever. I guess no response means Ill never know what happened. I just want to know if my text sounded needy or if it sounded stupid. I wanted to let him know I missed him (I refuse to call guys and text all day so sometimes I come off as not caring) but I also wanted him to know that I won't keep communication up if I feel I'm making more effort than he is. I really like him but I felt I had to let him go. I left it open if he wants to say something or if he wants to hang out again but I tried to make it clear that he would have to make the next move. I am not a needy person in the least and it was not enough time for me to fall in love. He is the guy all the girls want and he seemed to show genuine interest until we got closer and he started to open up about himself. I just want to know if my Text sounded too needy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): Good for you!! I'm so glad you decided to chuck this guy becoz he is SO not worth you...and you know it.He doesn't respond becoz he couldn't be bothered.But who is he to call the shots??You decide this time and let him go.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (20 September 2010):
Red591 is verified as being by the original poster of the question i guess i respond to your answers by answering my own question. I'm new to this site. Thanks Rescuer. I don't keep cheaters a second longer than they deserve which is none lol. Thanks for thinking it not too needy. As to Anonymous there thanks for your candor. I tried to make it a kind of whatever text but I guess I should not have sent it. I surely am not sending anything more as I removed him from my phone but he never lied to me so I don't hate him. He just wanted to hang out too randomly and I'm sure I was just another conquest but it sure seemed more than that. Who goes to the movies and talks for hours (did not sleep with him that night and he didn't try that night...but ofcourse I said THAT NIGHT lol) I guess I'm a fool. Hell he is 36 and was extremely impressed I had been with the same guy for almost two years. That was a flag right lol. I won't be mean if I hear from him but no I never got the "sob story" and i am well aware and said it myself that no one is "that damn busy" to text. I just don't get why he don't repond and say yeah i'm not the boyfriend type or I got a new girl or something. I gave him an "out" why don't he just say "good luck to you" so I know he don't care anymore. I guess no ends up with the "rock star".....well pamela anderson did for a while but she got beat up. no thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): Yes. It did sound too needy. Sorry bout that.
But then, why are you so keen on "Rockstar"? No man can ever be so busy that he wont have the time for a message/phone call. Come on...who are you kiddin???
"He is the guy all the girls want and he seemed to show genuine interest until we got closer and he started to open up about himself.".....CLASSIC "Rockstar" move. Did he come up with a sob story about his life? And how he absolutely loved your company, coz he could really relate to you? And he has "big" dreams about his future...and then you begin to think..Awwww...he's only human... this is the person behind the "Rockstar" and he's opening up to ME!!
Sorry to burst the bubble honey. Stay away from this guy. You dont want to be the centre of his universe one moment, and down in the dumps, wondering where on EARTH he's suddenly vanished to!! "Rockstar" probably just wants to...(how do I say sugarcoat this?)...get in your pants. He has tons of women in his life...you said it yourself. He's a player.
Forget about your text sounding too needy. Back off before you get hurt again.
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