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writes:It was 2 years ago It was an arranged marriage proposal between families, I did not like or hate the guy but i was definitely not comfortable with the whole situation.After about six days or so he said something really cheap and vulgar over the phone something I was not comfortable hearing.I broke off the entire thing the next day, now I feel awkward thinking if we were really destined to marry, did I make a mistake by letting it go or someone is out there???
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): The way I see it, if its ok with the two families that you broke it off and this guy isn't the one for you, then don't worry about it. You have the ability as much as anyone else to find a partner more suited to you.
Really, marriage is a personal choice, not a choice outsiders should make for somebody else. But I also understand some religions have strong views on this sort of thing.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (14 November 2012):
Hey dear,Other people tried to arrange a marriage for you and you didn't feel comfortable (which is quite natural, I think).He was stupid on the phone already, so you did well to blow off the whole thing.You were NOT in love with this guy. I agree with sageoldguy that this really doesn't sound like you were meant to be.Be happy for yourself that you were such a strong woman to blow off the whole thing. Congratulate yourself for your independence and look for real love.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (14 November 2012):
 I note your use of the phrase "...thinking if we were really destined to marry, .."
You must admit that having OTHER PEOPLE determine who you will marry (an arranged marriage) is hardly "were really destined"...
Why not cool things for the time being.... and continue to live life... and see how your love/romantic-life goes... and, if you find a guy who strikes your fancy, see if HE isn't the one you "were really destined to marry"....
Good luck....
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