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writes:I am kind of confussed about something and need help. You see there is a girl that I worked with and I liked her a lot, now she left the job and we still kept talking. She started a new job and she works most of the week from 3 to 11. Now I asked her out to a movie, now we went out to the movie and she was dressed in more of a way for a date than for how she dresses up for friends. So I assumed she liked me, now 4 days later I've asked her out to dinner and this time she has cancelled, her reason is because she wants to spend her free time asleep as she says she is tired and not getting enough. Is this a fake excuse? I know it sounds paranoid but we went out before and she was fine and we had fun but now she has said no because of that. Also being the idiot I am I jokingly said "sure I havent finally creeped you out" which I'm pretty sure has mucked it up. So is she making an excuse? And have I said something that will ultimately make me look crazy to her? Reply to this Question
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reader, uraqt9697  +, writes (30 July 2008):
She's probably adjusting to her new schedule..however, if for some reason it's just an excuse, then you're probably better off without someone who can't just be a little more honest.Other then that, I bet it is just an adjustment...otherwise, she probably wouldnt even be making contact with you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for that, was a little worried I screwed everything up, I'll probably wait a week and see how she's doing then.
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reader, Curiousbynature +, writes (30 July 2008):
If her shift, before that 3-11 shift was different sometimes there is a transformation period. I know when I started working 9 hour days at first I had absolutely NO extra energy and I wanted to sleep all of the time. But, eventually I got accustomed to the nature of the job and slowly got my energy level back. Just be patient, because if she likes you she likes you. She probably is really tired. I bet her sleep turns into a cycle. She comes home exhausted and goes right to bed. In turn she doesn’t have to be up till about 1, so she sleeps that whole time. Therefore, she is sleeping more than needed and feels even more tired. It’s a vicious cycle. She will probably get used to this cycle soon and have more energy to spend on you!
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