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writes:Hi. I have a bit of a long story to tell.2 weeks ago, I invited a friend of mine to help out at an Open House. During the entire week, he asks what I needed help with. I told him I didn't know.And, the day just before the Open House, he got a little upset. He said that it'll be very embarassing for him, if he just stands around, not knowing what to do.Then, comes the day of the Open House. He arrives, and, sure enough, he is just waiting there. I see him frowning due to waiting for the knowledge of what to do. We never told him what we needed help with. As my ride came, my friend came into the car with me.And, as soon as we arrived at his house, he just got out, and slammed the car door. It was rather hard, for a slam. I suspect he is upset?But, I don't understand! He is usually so cheerful, and a lot of good moods. However, I guess the event really upset the poor guy. Any ideas? I really want to know! What went wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, G's_Girl  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 Hi Anonymous,The answer is obvious - yes! he was upset because he wanted direction on what he could assist with, otherwise he would be embarrassed standing around. The day before the Open House, you realised he was a little upset, that was because he still didn't know what he would help with. What he feared would happen, did happen. You can't "suspect" he is upset - it is clear he is. How can you say you don't understand - he told you he wanted to know how he could help. Yes, he is usually cheerful and in a good mood, but this event had him out of his comfort zone so you needed to investigate and find out how he could assist so he would have felt helpful/useful. A more mature/extrovert guy may have investigated himself, but your guy needed direction.Next time, ask around, and find out how someone you invite, can help out and give that info to them before they are due to attend.Best Wishes.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 Here's his likely point of view:
YOU were in control of an event (the Open House) and asked him to assist. Even up to the moment of that event, you didn't tell him what you expected him to do. HOW does he handle that????? Did you even tell him how to dress for the event? Did you tell him where it was being held?
WHAT DID YOU EXPECT HIM TO DO????? Nobody wants to be invited to attend a vacuum!!!! Next time (with this guy or anybody else), be more forthcoming with a little information...
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