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writes:Back when I was in college (about 6 years ago) I had a good buddy of mine that was broken up with by his girlfriend of a few years. I got to be good friends with his girlfriend when they were together and she was someone that I truly enjoyed as a friend. About a year after they broke up, I walked her home one afternoon after happy hour. When I was there, she leaned in and kissed me, and I didn't stop her for about maybe 10 seconds. I stopped and said that the guy in me wanted to keep going, but I couldn't keep going and had to leave because of the fact that she used to date my friend. It obviously was something I immediately regretted just putting myself in the situation for that even to happen. This friend of mine finished school when they broke up and moved home. So this "kiss" happened about a year after they broke up. I have become closer with this friend now after a few years of distancing, and I'm in a completely different relationship, and this girl that was his ex went on to get married. He's brought her up and every time he does, I have this sense of guilt. It was so long ago, and probably will never ever see the light of day, but do I owe it to him to tell him this? Or let the past be the past? Did I break the code of men? Am I a terrible friend?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 February 2011):
 Like the below poster said, she kissed you not the other way around. Plus, you were the one to pull away. Plus the added factor they were broken up. Now if you were to plant one on her while they were still together then that would be breaking all sorts of guy codes.
Really this petty detail is better off left in the past where it belongs.
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