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writes:Hi. I've been dating my bf for 6yrs.I'm confused don't know How to deal with this temptation. There's this new guy at work and he's very handsome and when I looked at him I get butterflies on my stomach. Even when we share conversation he always says the right things that I really want to hear. Let me just say, I think I'm falling for this guy. My problem is I've got someone that I'm dating who is short and doesn't have the looks that makes me to melt like this guy. What must I do pls!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2012): I agree with So Very Confused. You have a crush and he is new, so yes, it's exciting, but remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side. A close friend of mine just went through this same thing, she was in a 2 yr relationship, the excitement had worn off, met a guy at work (who was VERY good looking) and he was interested in her, she told me he was perfect and had a crush..Well her and her boyfriend broke up and she went on a couple dates with this guy and he ended up being a complete douche (slept around, went through her phone and grabbed other girls numbers!) Not saying this guy will do that, but keep in mind it could just be the excitement that is tempting you, the new feeling. If I were you I would try and see what is lacking in your current relationship, six years is a long time to throw away. If you are just comfortable in your relationship and not in love with your boyfriend anymore, then you need to talk to your boyfriend and figure out if it's best to end it, or maybe since you guys have been together so long, more effort needs to be put forth. Relationships take work, they won't always be easy, real life isn't a fairy tale and yes, temptation is normal, but it's how you deal with it. Good luck
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reader, nobu +, writes (10 May 2012):
hey you knw what when you are in love the looks of the person doesint matter what matters is the way you feel about that particular person what matters is within the person"s out looks you cant just leave the guy that you have been with for such a very long time just for acharismastic guy you saw at work that is probebly a fling you have for that guy it will pass by.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 May 2012):
 You have a crush...
and all you see is his handsome good looks...
and that means that no matter what he says right now you will think it grand...
he's the NEW guy... do NOTHING give it a few months to work it's way out of your system...
6 years with a boyfriend is a long time... are you wishing he was more than a boyfriend or are you looking for a way to end a relationship that is not satisfying...
personally if you think he's too short and not attractive then I question why you are even with him... and wonder if you think there is more out there... because when a woman loves a man no matter how short or ugly he is, she thinks he's handsome and perfect.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2012): Hello,
My advice to you is fairly simple. 1st what I want you to do is think of WHY you are still in the 6 year relationship. There has to have been something there to make you stay in a relationship for that long. Now this could be as far as you go in my list because if you do not see any legitimate reason or feeling etc. etc. then you should end it and try to find someone who makes you feel like a melting Popsicle ;) 2nd: If you can find some pretty good (but not overwhelming) qualities with your old boyfriend then it comes down to a hard choice and depends all on how you look at things. You could A: Weigh the options and find that your current boyfriend is worth sticking with. In this case you need to make sure you tread carefully when you talk with this work stud. You could B: Weigh the choices and say "If I didn't try then how can I know?" In this case you break it off with your old boyfriend and you see if there is anything between you and this work stud. I want to warn you on a couple of things before you go and execute anything. Remember that mixing work and pleasure can be disastrous. Another thing is why don't you you tell your current boyfriend the way you feel you could be surprised and your love life can possibly re-kindle!
Best of luck,
Soulbrain :)
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