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writes: Dear Cupid,I've just split up with my girlfriend of 18 months. She is 2 years younger than me, I'm 22. We were together for 6 months initially and we split up because she started to become verbally abusive to me after a drink. She was great sober, but after she had a drink she would say unbelievably hurtful things. After putting up with this for a long while I had to end it. She was getting me down.I had a few relationships in the 5 months we were apart and never had any contact with her. Then we saw each other again and it was like we had never split up. We got back together and everything was going great. But over the last few weeks she has begun to go down the same road again, but being more hurtful with her comments. Unprovoked comments as well again.I've tried to talk to her about it, but she tries to make out that it's my fault and that I'm trying to blame everything on her. She says she doesn't remember saying these things as well and pretends everything's fine afterwards. I'm not perfect, but nobody needs to be treated that way, drink or no drink. After much toiling with the desicion I had to break up with her again which has left me gutted.I did try my hardest, but I still want to be with her.Did I make the right decision in finishing it again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2006): I had the exact same situation: a boyfriend that was great sober, and verbally abusive when drunk. We split up just recently, and it hurts like hell, but deep down, I know in my heart that this was the healthiest thing I could do for ME. Of course you can't help but remember all the good times you had, but when the good times no longer outweigh the bad times, then aren't you just harming each other by attempting to make something work that really, you both know, is not working?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2005): Of course you did the right thing. No one that loves you would say those hurtful things like it is nothing. You need to find someone that loves you for you, not one that is just going to be there sober and when she's not go all crazy on you and forget about it the next day. You will find someone and it will make you the happiest ever.
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reader, lazySman +, writes (11 April 2005):
"Did your hardest? You barely tried, you worthless puke! Youre not even good enough to stick it out through a little sticky patch, bitch!" Wanna listen to more demeaning bullshit like that forever!?! You did the right thing brother, now deal with heal. You'll make it OK.
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