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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:If your friend were very angry with you, this particular friend said some very angry words to you, could you ever forgive him or her? Suppose this friend was just angry, and just lashing out in pain.I said some very angry words to him. Could you be friends with someone that you thought to be a good person, if this friend had lashed out at someone else (not you, but a third party) in anger?Part of me really hates this friend, because I feel like he betrayed me, and part of me is overcome with guilt because we used to be best friends and I've ruined everything. Part of me feels sad because I fear that our friendship is broken beyond repair and part of me still hates him for being a d*** to me. I once had feelings for this friend... and he wrote to me and told me that we could have a relationship and he needed me (this happened last fall)... and then, a few month later, I fouhnd out that he was in love with another girl (they met last February).
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): I think you're right Gina, a lot of it is relative.
I'm sad because I'm missing his friendship, and I'm angry because I feel like he betrayed me, and I'm feeling guilty about lashing out and saying all those hateful words, and I'm feeling confused about the fact that I regret saying those things when he deserves my anger... how can one person feel all this? I never thought it was possible.
Thanks, though for listening to me, it helps... it really does!
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