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writes:I've had a crush on a guy for ages. Three or four years. He had told me that he didn't fancy me, but would like to remain friends. Is it possible that he has changed his mind? Today we were sat next to each other and were talking. He looked at me, and I looked straight back at him, the middle of his eye got bigger. We both reached for a piece of paper, at the same time, and I put my hand on top of his by mistake, and he had a sharp intake of breath and his breathing got heavier. He was blushing and sweating a little, and was jitterery and apologetic because he kept accidentally touching me all lesson. Has he changed his mind? I'm not a very observant person but he's never done this before?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): I still think it's not that OP and it's certainly better to assume it's not unless he actually makes move. I mean if he's your friend for so long surely you can ask him what was up that day.
As crude as this sounds he may just have used you in a wank fantasy or had a sex dream about you that morning. You'd be surprised how both those things can stick in your head and make you a bit self-conscious around the person you were thinking of. Maybe he's just been thinking of you in terms of a shag lately. Doesn't mean he likes you at all, just when you hang around a girl enough, spend enough time with her in school even if you don't fancy her imagining sex with her is not uncommon.
There's also another possibility maybe he noticed you examining him and your body language and was reminded of how much you still like him and got self-conscious about that.
OP I really think you're seeing what you hope is true and not the reality. Unless he states otherwise there is nothing there and it's all in your head. You could always just ask him though, he was okay with it before and you remained friends you could just ask him if his feelings have changed.
But OP remember 3 years he hasn't fancied you, 3 years he's known you like him and he's done nothing. You don't just wake up one morning and suddenly fancy someone after 3 years. Maybe you come to the decision you might want to give her a go and see if you can get a shag off her but he hasn't developed any serious feelings for you over that time. He's had three years and nothing OP, you're grasping at straws.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): He kept knocking me and being really fidgety.
The reason I am confused is because of the sudden change in behaviour. He has known for the last three years that I like him, and he hasn't acted like this before. He's normally really outgoing and confident.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): No OP unfortunately it doesn't mean that at all. He doesn't fancy you, that doesn't change really.
What you're seeing is a guy who is nervous around you now because he knows you like him. He;s nervous because he doesn't want to give you any false hope and lead you on, so accidentally touching you, catching your gaze etc. makes him feel uncomfortable now because he knows they might mean something more to you and he doesn't want you thinking that.
Want to know how I know he definitely hasn't changed his mind? Because he's a teenage boy and he has you on a plate if he wants you, but he hasn't taken you. Only when he asks you out tries to kiss you or tells you he likes you that way will it be true. But don't hold your breath OP and try not to read into his behaviours, you're not a mind reader and never will be.
He knows you like him and now he feels awkward. It's strange when a friend tells you they have a crush on you and you're not interested OP, you always have to be on guard after that to make sure you don't hurt them by inadvertently leading them on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): It sounds to me like he might have changed his mind. Let him approach you this time, though. Don't remind him of your feelings. He'll probably start liking you even more if he thinks you're no longer interested. Guys your age are funny that way.
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