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Pepper126
writes:Things my boyfriend of 2 years does:calls daily more than once. Comes over 3 or 4 times a week at night after work to watch TV. We go to the movies and out to eat at nice resturants Saturdays and Sundays. We sometimes buy things for each other for no reason. We go to church together on Sundays.Things he doesn't do:Never tells me that he loves me...I'm suppose to know the answer because "I live it!" We have sex about once a month...it never has been frequent but at first it was once a week. He's 46 and is into body building. I'm 50 and I'm not as tight as I want to be but I do the gym thing as well. He doesn't listen when I'm expressing how I feel about our relationship. He doesn't want me saying that I love him cause he says I'm trying to convince myself? Now I hardly say it at all. He's never been married but his last girlfriend could have been the one to change that but she left him and that was 3 years ago and it still hurts. Could this be why he treats me this way?
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reader, Pepper126 +, writes (2 February 2008):
Pepper126 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you guys. The response was awesome. I have made him think that there was someone else interested and yeah he went goofy on me true that. I always have to look around and find someone with his body type or better though or he doesn't feel threatened. Sometimes that's a task in itself! lol. Again thank you my friends.
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (2 February 2008):
 Sound like he's afraid to take the relationship to the next level. Yea that could be because of his ex. The issue though is not the fact he feels the way he does, it's that he chose to view what happened with his ex in a way that causes damage to other relationships. I'd say he needs to find some help to work these issues out.
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reader, shortybabes  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 He could simply be acting this way because of insecurity, this guy could be insecure ands there could be a chance he is scared of getting hurt again hun. Try sitting him down and talk to him about this and try asking him why he is acting this way with you, talking problems through does help a lot hunny. Hope all goes well xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): DONT BE SO AVAILABLE. PLAY THE GAME. men dont care or even notice if your not as 'tight' as you were. Make him think you have a really exciting life, pretend there is another man on the scene, then watch him come running. You must listen to this as I know what Im talking about. I made my fiance so jealous I had a ring on my finger before you could say boo. Be exciting. But yes, you are right, he is still hurt. You must let him see that compared to you, the ex was NOTHING. Go on girl, sort him out. Make him want you so much, he is begging. You can do it.
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reader, louisamax +, writes (2 February 2008):
Listen to good advice from one who knows. Now listen. DON'T!
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