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anonymous
writes:Hi - I was wondering if someone could help me diagnose or even give me some advice on what to do.My girlfriend today broke down in hysterics telling me shes wanted to tell me this for ages but hasn't had the courage and wish he hadn't now. She says she has a lump on one of her bum cheeks, and shes ultra scared. She says its the same color as her skin, and it doesn't hurt. What could this be? I initially thought cancer but then I went on to find out that she's had it for around 7 years and it hasn't grown or anything, so it can't be can it? All this she told me in tears. Shes normally quite a smart girl but when I told her she should go to the doctor she started crying harder and said "NO" and was like "I don't want to find out, what if it IS cancer" But shes had it for 7 years so it cant be right? What should I do tell someone else? Or try and persuade her to go to the doctors with me. I really care about her Its just that I'm only just 16 and I don't know all that much about cancers! I'm just hoping someone will tell me that if it hasn't got bigger in 7 years its just a gland or something. Please give me some advice shes adamant that I keep this a "secret". Should I brake her trust? I shouldn't need to if somebody told me it CANT be cancer. Help Reply to this Question
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Hi
Relax!!!! Its extreeeeeeeeeemely unlikely to be malignant after all this time! Honest. I wouldnt just say that! She needs to get it checked out as a matter of routine but i would bet money on it being a harmless bit of fibrous tissue (fatty lump, women get them in the breats sometimes too) or a cyst! Ive known a few people to get lumps and bumps on their bits n pieces, their backs etc. They have them removed and all is fine.
Does she suffer from health anxiety?
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Why would she want to worry when she can have it resolved? Does that make any sense?
It could be a cyst, just a non cancerous lump that can be removed.
If she's had it for seven years and it hasn't gotten any bigger-cancer does that; why is she worrying?
Does she like the attention? Does she like living in a higher state of worry?
There are some people who prefer to lie to themselves and believe that worry is like fear.
Fear is something that is life threatening.
Worry is a waste of time and energy.
If she really wanted to solve it and have a care free, stress free life, she would be smart enough to know that a doctor is someone to consult when it comes to anything regarding health.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): it cant be cancer, becauase cancer grows. if its been there for 7 years then its just an abnormality. thats all.but if shes really worried you should go to the doctor. at least that will set her mind at rest. even if it is cancer which is unlikely. im sure doctors can remove it before any harm is done.hope this helps
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