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writes: I'm a 25 year old female and I've never had any sexual feeling towards anyone, male or otherwise. I've never had sex or kissed anyone, never masturbated, fancied of fantasised about anyone, and to be honest the thought of any of these things doesn't interest me in the slightest. Is this very uncommon? Could I be asexual- like a plant? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2006): Yes, it definitely sounds as though you are one of many people who are asexual (without a sex drive) and this is not something to be worried about or ashamed of. In fact, many more people than you realise are possibly asexual but are afraid to admit to it due to our society having become so sex-obsessed. If you are happy in yourself, there is no need to seek counselling. In fact, there is a danger that those you seek help from might not understand asexuality and might want to try to 'cure' you. Being asexual gives you a tremendous freedom to experience and appreciate many other things that life has to offer, and you have the added advantage that you are not driven by your sexual needs and drives. Incidentally, in a couple of months, a new website is being launched at www.celibrate.org which will cover asexuality in detail and might enable you to meet others of a like mind. All the best, DemiDee x
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reader, schlottjl  +, writes (22 August 2005):
 After ruling out supressed feelings in response to childhood sexual abuse and medical situations that effect hormones, perhaps it can be normal. If you don't mind and have to desire to grow old with someone go for it. Just don't bring another unsuspecting person into the mix.
I thought asexual was a term used to explain reproduction via a process like mitosis. (Asexual reproduction) You seem to be explaing no sexual feelings and I would definately see a doctor to rule out any tumors or other medical reasons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2005): Yes, you definitely could be asexual. There are a growing number of people who define themselves this way (google the term 'asexual') and who are very happy to live without sex and sexual feelings.The important issue is whether you're happy with the way you are. Medical intervention could probably step in to "kick start" you, sexually, if you're unhappy or feel that there's something missing from your life. However, if you're well-adjusted in other aspects of your life and feel content with not having sexual feelings (that is, if you don't feel that sexual feeling is latent or repressed), then I don't see why you can't be perfectly happy as you are.You might want to speak to a sexual therapist for a few sessions, just to explore the possibility that you're not repressing something that you find distasteful for some reason, and after that, you'll have a good idea where you stand.But you're certainly not alone, or strange.Good luck, whatever you do!
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