A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok, so i'm just going to get this out there, in my high school everyone has either lost thier virginity in 9th or won't until marrige. and i absolutely LOVE my boyfriend, we've been togethe so much its probably not healthy but i love it : ). now, the other week he told me that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me ( aww i was soo happy) and then we were looking at apartments to move into, now im an upperclassmen and i want to give my virginity to him. But there is a problem. a.) Losing your virginity hurts like hell so i've heard, but idk if i have one because i've been horseback riding and i fell off, onto a rock and my mom said that it could have broken my hymen, and after that i've used a tampon and they hurt like hell but no more bleeding than normal. and its not that they hurt going in, they just hurt going out. And i really don't wanna dissapoint him by having to stop due to my pain. b.) my dad is super stict and NEVER lets me get two minutes alone with the boy, i can't even go to church without adult supervision!!! ITS FREAKIN REDICULOUS!! so how can i get alone time? please help me i have no idea what im doing.
View related questions:
hymen, tampon Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Felisha Marie +, writes (29 September 2009):
 First, Im sure you've heard this but think about what you're doing, every perspective, if what you're are doing absolutely right for you, and the two of you. Are you sure that he's in this for you, and 'the rest of his life with you', or just like many others who have told their partner what they want to hear to get what they want.
Secondly, go to your OBGYN, soon, and talk to him/her about a.)your interest in having sex soon, b.)the pain while using tampons. They are signed to keep anything you want confidential, confidential. Just express your feelings on your fears and problems. The first time you do it, it does hurt, also varies with different women. But as you go on, trust me, it gets better darlin! At any rate, make sure you're ready and talking to your gyno to make sure your body is ready too.
Thirdly, getting alone time with this boy does sound difficult. And I dont advise sneaking around really, from experience, the end result turns out alot worse than originally what it could have been. But if you are going to try to sneak, make sure it's full proof chica. And if you decide to follow through and you get the chance, use protection, and watch him put it on.
Good Luck, Be Smart.
|
