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female
age
41-50,
*impleOne
writes:Hi and thank you for reading this question. I met a chappy online. We connected on a level over the internet and the phone. We met. Physically he is similar to my ex, both 'not-my-type' as in tubby and my height. He looked like a larger version of his photo, but otherwise attractive (lovely eyes). We had lunch and hung out. Thing is, I find it hard to believe all that he says about himself. Nothing overly obvious, just minor things. Also his eyes shift sometimes when talking about himself and not at other times. He told me he was an only child for his mother, then stated that his sister looks like him (when discussing his mother)then changed by saying his half-sister by father. Only a few things like this - I tried to explain to myself that I am new to him and he is holding his cards close to his chest. But why over something so basic? Is it that he is only after one thing and very hopeful that he'll get it, therefore truth doesn't matter/family kept out of it? Is it rude of me to have expected some kind of confirmation that he was who he said he was (I, before we went home, showed him my licence - was this a mad/bunny-boiler thing to do and expect?) Everything can be explained away but suspicious none-the-less.We agreed to meet up two days later as I was busy. He called the next day (when I was supposed to be busy - rain stopped activity), I answered but only background noise and breathing of someone walking with phone to ear - not heavy breather call lol. Phones not the type to make a call when in pocket. He texted me in the evening wanting to talk. (A pal had told me on the day of lunchdate about internet dating sites being used by guys to collect girls - this was playing on my mind also.)After talking briefly (lovely voice and dreamily articulate) I stated that we should not talk anymore. Told him because somethings didn't add up and not comfortable. Somehow felt like I was hurting him. How can this be? Yet..... doubts about whether I've done the right thing. We got on really well yet....If you choose to reply I would be grateful. Thank you again for reading this. SimpleOne
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reader, SimpleOne +, writes (13 August 2010):
SimpleOne is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for your response and confirmation. I have struggled with this as there was such a strong initial connection, on quite a few things. But hey-ho, c'est la vie etc etc lol. Thank you again and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Yes, I believe you did. With the internet and other social things like they are today, it's easy to lie and get away with it. Meeting up in person does make it more difficult and little differences in body language are a give away for lies. Misinformation about siblings and parents is no "little white lie" either and who knows what else he could be trying to mislead you about too. Trust your gut is all I can say.
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