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41-50,
*eeheart
writes:I've been seriously dating my girlfriend for almost 2 years now, when we started having sex we were just getting to know our bodies and that was fine. Sex was exciting and frequent enough I guess. Fast forward and now for the past few months sex has SLOWED to a crawl, my gf has a history of vaginal discomfort after she comes or even before that. Last night we got together, she got her O (which is great, I like taking care of my woman) but she couldn't go on and the longer it went her problem posed a problem...(here's where my post kinda echoes my other one) So I am trying to be intimate with her and she's asking me if I'm about to come, when this happens it feels like we're no longer having sex because she says things like "can you try to come?" or "Focus". Sex with her is short enough in my opinion already and Im wondering if things will ever change. Is a relationship where the dynamic between us is an 8 and the sex (5 out of 10) worth the problems?I've never been truly satisfied, and if not that I just dont get any at all. She was sorry last night, but what if it never changes? I dont think it's selfish to want a healthy uncomplicated sex life, and I have to say I'm always asking/initiating...I'm always starving for it.Do any of you ever think about just walking away? As much as I enjoy a committed relationship with a great girl, I'm eager for whats lacking.
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reader, Teeheart +, writes (14 January 2010):
Teeheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI see wwhat you're saying but I just don't get it. I really try to get into it and focus all on her so she gets what she wants...but once that happens or if things get too intense she starts having pain. I've finally expressed that she needs to speak to her gyne about that because it's a great concern for her health and on our sex life (I Didnt mention that). And when these things happen she just says she sorry and leaves it at that...it would be nice if she could give me some attention, but once she gets to a certain point there's no passion left in her and she's practically lifeless.
this stuff really gets to me and with regular relationship trials and communication experiences this is really tough to stomach at times when I really want to be close with my girlfriend.
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reader, Teeheart +, writes (14 January 2010):
Teeheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI see wwhat you're saying but I just don't get it. I really try to get into it and focus all on her so she gets what she wants...but once that happens or if things get too intense she starts having pain. I've finally expressed that she needs to speak to her gyne about that because it's a great concern for her health and on our sex life (I Didnt mention that). And when these things happen she just says she sorry and leaves it at that...it would be nice if she could give me some attention, but once she gets to a certain point there's no passion left in her and she's practically lifeless.
this stuff really gets to me and with regular relationship trials and communication experiences this is really tough to stomach at times when I really want to be close with my girlfriend.
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reader, nelle2472002  +, writes (14 January 2010):
 if things have been like that since the beginning then thats something you signed up for. but, if its just starting to get that way maybe she is tired of sex with you...or sex period...cause if im reading correctly shes saying it as though she wants you to hurry up..or it could be that she came already and shes just a one timer and ready for it to end. either way some things are just better off in your head, shouldnt say them out loud. maybe instead of her saying those things she could do more kinky things that turn you on even more to make you get to your point. if youve never talked to her about this maybe you should. if it doesnt change you know what you gotta do if it means that much to you. after all life is too short to be unhappy, make yourself happy by all means.
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