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writes:Is there a way for a couple in the Philippines one being a US citizen and the other a Philippine citizen age 20 and 23 consecutively to get married without parental consent? Our parents do not agree with our marriage but we are both sure that once we are married they will grow to accept us. Reply to this Question
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (6 August 2008):
 Ahhh I get it now! The hold that finances have over people.
At least in financial terms there is no longer a hold, 'just' the past hurt so to speak.
I just hope you can all work it out as you need peace of mind and support, and they might have to put up with each-other.
Sometimes I think the older some people get the worse they get, and the 'older' generation call us 'younger' generation.
Fiona.
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reader, truth0917 +, writes (6 August 2008):
truth0917 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, it is a complicated situation. The problem is not with my fiancee and i, it is with our parents. Sometime a very long while ago her parents borrowed a semi-large amount of money from my parents. Her parents were about to pay my parents back but needed a little extra time but, did not tell my parents that they needed the extra time. Then my parents being mature, decide to take legal action before talking with her's, It all escalates from there.
We are so deeply in love, we really need to be together NOW. Our parents constant bombardment on us is becoming unbearable. At one point i got a call from her parents and they said she wants to break it off with me when she said no such thing, my parents also did the same to her. We really just want to get away from them but we cannot run away from our families. we just hope that by us getting married they will be forced to make up and we can all be happy.
So, we are looking if there is anyway that we can get married IN THE PHILIPPINES "WITHOUT" parental consent.
By the way, her parents did pay my parents back and my parents did not go through with the legal action but, they both hate each other, WITH A PASSION.
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (6 August 2008):
Crikey, things are complicated. Perhaps you should just explain where I am coming from. ie a relationship based on common interests/goals etc, free from drugs, gambling etc etc ie you have average lives expectations. So what's the issue? Loyalty and reliability are the most crucial things.
I cannot imagine where this deep seated stuff stems from. Only you can know and get to the bottom of it. But normally it stems from one of your pasts that the parents don't like, or one parent thinks the other partner is a know it all or loud mouthed or something. I dunno.
Good luck and get it sorted.
You need peace of mind for the future, and have a future with a good start.
Fiona.
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reader, truth0917 +, writes (5 August 2008):
truth0917 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOur families are crazy they do not get along at all, that is our problem. We have been together for 5 years but, just last year our parents found out about our relationship and now both our families are trying to tear us apart. We both are steady financially, she is a RN and i am finishing nursing this year. We have tried talking to them for over a six months now but, still they do not want to listen. We just want to be together but our parents have some deep hate that we just cant resolve as we are now. We are hoping that our marriage will stop the fighting, arguing and harassment; above all letting the ONE that i truly love and I be together without having to hide what we have.
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (5 August 2008):
I am not talking about any legalities here. But you really need backing for your own sanity and your own support. You have to ask why you don't have thier blessing? You give no details. Surely if you are both average people with average views and expectations, have common interests, and some sense of humour and are nice, surely your parents would like?
Or is it that they feel you are too young? Is there any harm in waiting a year or so? See how things go dating, don't move in or anything and prove your relationship has lasted etc?
I met my husband when I was 21 and we didn't get married until I was 26 cos of various reasons at the time, but mainly financial and cos we were both at college.
If a relationship feels right to you both and your partner is reliable and has a sense of responsibility then I cannot see why parents would not like it. I know nobody ever matches up to your parents fictitious ideals. But as long as there is no messy past or criminal past, gambling, drugs... you get where I am coming from.
Fiona
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