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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over a year now. We have had our issues, and obviously have usually been able to work things out. All I have ever wanted in our relationship is to make him happy and show him that I truly do love him. But somehow, even when I don't know it, I make him upset. Today, I asked him if he wanted to come hang out with my cousin and myself, he said sure. We went over there around two and since my cousin was sick, we just watched some TV. Without knowing it, 4 hours went by and he seemed like he was asleep. I went upstairs to use the restroom and when I came out, he had left. He started walking to the nearest bar(it's how he cools off when he's really mad at me) and I just drove him to the one by our house. The entire ride he did not say anything, even when he got out he just...left.These things seem to happen a lot. We are very good with communication and very good about making sure we talk things out. But I don't know how to make him happy anymore, I'm scared that if this continues on he will want to leave me....I just need someone to help me figure out what I am doing wrong...please....
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reader, SummerOak +, writes (24 December 2008):
 You two should talk it out (maybe even with counseling), though I don't really know how old you have to be or if you have to be married to do it. I think the anonymous below me could be right; maybe it isn't even you at all. Just make sure you are being patient and to give him space from time to time, and if things don't work out between you, just end it. You shouldn't have to take verbal abuse for something that isn't even your fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): are you sure its something you are doing wrong?in my past relationship, my boyfriend would storm off in a mood, and id think it was something i had done , it wasnt until we split up that i realised it wasnt my fault,so when i saw him next, i asked him why he would do it, he said most of the time it was cause he was bored with everything- so basically saying the drama of me chasing after him asking what id done was amusing to him, and other times it was cause he wanted time to himself but didnt know how to tell me ,i asked him if i was right in thinking it wasnt my fault and he agreed i was right .the only thing i can suggest is to simply say to him, why do you get in these moods, what are you thinking of at the time , is it really my fault , or are you just blaming me cause its the easiest option,you say you communicate, these should be easy to ask him ! good luck hun and let me know how it goes xx
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