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writes: My boyfriend of three years broke up with me recently, claiming the feelings just weren't there anymore, and it wasn't working. Now, he claims to have a new girlfriend.I'm still wholeheartedly in love with the guy. Any advice on winning him back?
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reader, KnowOne1988  +, writes (26 August 2008):
Is your ex Lucas or Luke? if so get over it
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Okay.Now listen. I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now but we've been talking for about a year. When we started talking he had just got out of a two year relationship with his ex. It was a confusing ordeal at first because he didnt want a relationship (that little story)but honestly, I think it had to do wit his ex too. Anyway, after a long summer.. he decided he didnt want to lose me and we started dating.I know he loves me a lot and we're EXTREMELY happy together. NOw.The point to my story is that yes.. I'm still VERY bothered with my boyfriends ex. BUT WHY? because she does not back the F**** offf!!!. This is whole " we're still friends" and " he's the only person that understands me" BULLSHIT.. is getting on my nerves. Honestly.. for all ex girlfriends... it just seems like you need to get over it. I'm not saying ex's cant be friends. I'd still love to know how my ex is doing.. but thats about it. I mean a phone call everyday.. is that really necessary? hmm... i wonder what could have possibly happened from one day to another?. PLEASE. do all new girlfriends a favor... and relax yourselves. Like others have said... if he wanted to be with you.. HE WOULD. As girls, we know guys somehow have this "power" to not stay emotionally hurt and attached to a relationship once it's over.Unfortunatly .. we do. BUT as an EX girlfriend, myself... I won't lie.. it was very difficult to get over my ex.. but I found myself an amazing guy, that's TEN TIMES better then my ex. Sometimes, some things just work out for the best.. And all ex girlfriend's who play this little game of "being friends" with ur ex boyfriend wen really.. u still have feelings for him..1. If that's truly the case, you shouldn't do that. It's just morally wrong. 2. Try to put yourself in a girlfriends shoes.. sucks to have an ex girlfriend up ur boyfriends ass, doesnt it?3. Just Get Over it! Go on a trip... find yourself a lover.. once you can find someone else... you know you can get over anyone. There's 10 billion guys out there... you can have them all except for your ex..who is now in a relationship. thank you. Please try not to Hate.the New Girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): I have tried and tested this and it definately works.If you have already made contact with him please stop. Break off all ties with him and he will wonder what he lost and actualy take time out to think about it but if you continue communicating with him then you will forever be his PLAN "B". No-one deserves to be plan B so make sure you are is first choice and back off. I know it is easier said than done but that is the only way you will know. If he doesnt come back to you then he was never meant for you in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): heya i dont agree with the previous answer. i dont think you should ring him at all even if it is positive, my ex just broke up with me after 3 months doesent seem very long does it, bt i fell 4 him and now im hurt! this wasent the first time he finished with me about a month ago because he was stil in love with his ex (hed been with her for two years) i felt his pain and was always comforting to him and then he txt me sayin dat he thought we should split up because it wasent fair me being second best. i agreed and was stil there for him like a friend then he phoned me one fri nite(a week after) and said that he was waiting for his ex to come over to talk and try again but he didnt no what 2 do because he thought he had fallen fo me. i was left confused, anyway about 2 hours l8r he phoned and said dat shed gone home and they werent going 2 try again, and asked me 2 go for a drink me being me , I DID! and got bk 2 gefa straight away now hes done it again but this time they ARE bk together which is worse anyway i bought this book called 'The rules'! ITS AMAZING and it takes a lot to amaze me! ive read it over and over, the more i read it the more confident i am of my self and that he didnt deserve me in the first place! i strongly recommend you read it and become a 'RULES GIRL' i would never of gone for that drink if id of read this book before. good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): I feel your pain!!!! That just happened to me! He basically sadi he doesnt know if he loves me anymore and has started texting a really preety friend of ours and telling me about her. I dont know how to help but I know what it's like. We were serious for over 2 yrs and weer planning on getting engaged and stuff but he said that! He keeps messing me around and when i aske dot see the texts the girl sent him he deleted them!!!! I feel betrayed and deeply hurt.
I recently read 'men are from mars, women are from venus' whihc has helped me ALOT so I recommend it!!!! I cried (and i hardly ever cry) because its so true and i realised how he fell out of love with me because i was too OTP and basically doing what women do best- nagging lol...
Give it a chance. If he does still love you he'll soon know. just let him miss you!!!! If he doesnt hes an idiot and get a better model lol... :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2005): One question...why? Why would you want to interfere with your ex-boyfriend's new relationship? Get this idea of "winning him" back out of your head, now. All it would do is -tell HIM and the rest of your friends, how horridly low you will stoop in life-just to get YOUR needs met. His dating another girl is NOT a competition, so don't treat like it is and he's the prize! He's with her for a reason-he likes her a lot. Have you given any thought, whatsoever- to the pain and hurt you will be causing HIM and this new gf? You and your ex BF broke up for a reason and he moved on. Now, you need to move on too. Becky05 laid it out honestly "If he doesnt want to be with you, then there is nothing you can do to win him back" If by chance, their relationship does not work out and he's free to date you again...then go for it. But don't conspire and think up ways to break them up? That's so unclassy and immature. And because you wrote in for advice..I have the feeling you are a good, nice person and you needed some assurance that this was wrong.(because it is very wrong)Good for you, hun. Go find someone else and let them have their relationship. Take Care and be happy.
Hugs, Irish
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reader, becky05 +, writes (12 August 2005):
If he doesnt want to be with you, then there is nothing you can do to win him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2005): Well the advice i would give you is first of all to stay really cool if you run into him for the next say three months, don't let on you feel anything at all. If you don't run into him make no contact at all. Then after around three months (that leaves enough time for the honeymoon period of his new relationship to be waning) think of some real cool reason to text or ring him, keep it really positive, like some good news or something like that, make sure that its a good reason and that it doesn't look obvious that your looking for an excuse to make contact. After this initial contact, MAKING SURE YOU END ON A VERY POSITIVE NOTE, let him take the lead then, and he will, it might take another few months but he will make contact with you again. Keep it really cool and positive until you have him roped. This will work, trust me.
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