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writes:Here it is... I LOVE my friends. SO much, I can't even put into words how unbelievably important to me they are; we're a really tight-knit group. They are EVERYTHING to me. With a family I don't get along with and can't open up to, they are ALL I have. And I think, when you hear how bad things at home are for some of our group, you realise how important we all are to one another - forever. THEY are my true family. but.... there is a slight problem. My ex-boyfriend is IN that friend group of six of us, and we're still great friends and have been for years. BUT I'm finding it VERY hard to move on from him because we have maintained such a good relationship and I have to pretend I'm okay. He knows how I feel and he says he loves me but now is not "our time". In turn..... i can't truly feel included in anything with our group of friends because he is part of the group, and I can't say what I want without the threat that he might find out or that I sound stupid because they know him so well and he's probably spoken to them about how much of an idiot I am.HOW can I get over him whilst still maintaining a relationship with him? Is it going to be impossible?Thank you for your help, answers really appreciated! :(
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 Why do you think you're stupid, and what friend would he be if he was walking around telling your other good friends that you're an idiot? Would your other good friends really tolerate anyone talking you down? Do you really think, with him being a good friend of yours as well as an ex, that he'd do such a thing?
I think he's loyal to you as a friend, and do are your other friends, and that you are making yourself nervous over nothing but your own fears.
Say what you want. Don't be scared, be yourself with your friends, as they are your family more than your blood-related family.
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