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writes:Mod Note....OP's own title.Dear Cupid,I am a 24 year old single girl who has been in several long term relationships in the past few years. Recently however, I've had no luck whatsoever on the dating front, and find myself wondering if I will ever feel love from a man again.I know that may sound stupid, especially for someone who's supposed to be an adult, but I'm feeling so lonely and lost right now that I don't know what to do.I'm not stunning in any way, but neither am I unattractive, and I like to think I'm a nice person with a fun, intelligent personality.However,any guy I do like seems to have no interest in me and it's wearing me down.I don't want to seem desperate(as I know this is a turn off) but I don't want to seem like I couldn't care less either.Has anyone got any advice on where I'm going wrong?Please help,thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, AprilHeirwynd +, writes (11 August 2010):
AprilHeirwynd is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi guys, thanks for the advice. I was feeling my most lonely when I wrote this and feel much better now with my life-with or without a man. I think I'll just try to build on other aspects of my life that make me happy for now, as much of your advice has stated.
Thanks so much!
(Bernard- I wasn't trying to find a guy on the other side of the world :) and Church would be a hard place to find someone as I'm not religious. Thanks for the advice anyway though :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 August 2010):
You said you've been in several long term relationships in the last few years. That means you've been out with several guys who were not Mr Right.
I do think you're a nice girl, but I think you're placing too much emphasis on finding a guy, rather than focusing in your own life and filling it. I think you need to be out there with friends having fun, starting new hobbies, focusing on your work and your own life. The right guy will be interested when he sees that you're interested, but that your life isn't revolving around just him.
So, for now, stop worrying about men and pick yourself up and get out there. You're focused too much on finding a man, and not enough on your own life.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (7 August 2010):
 Feeling lonely is never stupid.. all humans feel like that at some time. I doubt that your doing something wrong, you probably are in the wrong place at the wrong time and you miss meeting mr.right...
Don't know how long you've been single, but don't give up.. love and romance comes arround when you least expect it.
Go out with your girlfriends, pick up hobbies, challenge yourself with goals for things you've always wanted to do...keep busy, keep active, study a language, learn to sail a boat... all these things will keep you too busy to get lonely, but they also keep you out in public in areas where men are likely to be.
Good luck, your time will come soon so make the best of being single, you'll look back and remember it with fond memories.
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (7 August 2010):
First i want to say you are not doing wrong! but you are heading down a road of desperation! which can take you to all the wrong places and relationships! and men do sense that. and will only use and respect what you give them to respect out of your desperation! you are only 24 and is being alone really a bad thing? thats the time and age you can be getting your life together and what you want from life! and you will be all together and will end up knowing what kind of man! you want in your life as well. that you can be picky and end up in the right relationship! w/ already having security your own independence and foundation built for you! this is your journey take it slow he's right around the corner!
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): First it it might depend on where youre going to meet people. If youre going to bars or clubs to try to find men its the wrong place because the people there are usually looking for hook-ups. I suggest talking to some of your girl friends and ask them if they know any single men that you might like. Most relationships form from friendships. And dont worry, you're still young! Im sure youll find somebody. A man should love you beacuse of your personality!:] Good Luck!
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