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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:It's been 3 years since my first love and I broke off our 3 year relationship but I can't stop thinking about him and I know I still love him! We broke up because of distance and fighting and have both had relationships since then. We've always hooked up when we run into each other since the break up but now he's been calling me and I've been calling him...we even took a beach trip with just the two of us. I can't tell if he's just using me for sex, or as a rebound from his ex (his friends tell me he was so in love with her...but if he was why would he cheat on her with me when he never cheated on me?) I need advice!!!! Do I try to talk to him because im scared that will just scare hi away, or do i just enjoy what is happening with us now and leave it at that because i know we can't date long distance??? If we lived in the same town we would date, but we don't. We both graduate college in about a year in a half but I don't want to wait that long and what if he meets someone else or gets back with his ex. I will be devastated...what should I do!!!
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Long distance relationships do work if you both commit to them, i am living proof!
It does sound like this guy is on a rebound though. If he really loved this girl then after the split he will be missing the love and attention she gave him and hes looking anywhere to find it.
Give him a bit more space. Don't have sex with him, it will make things alot worse. If he does really love you then start from the beginning and go from just dating and going out for coffee.
Good luck
Livia
xoxox
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