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writes:My girlfriend and I broke up for a month, she dated this guy, she got pregnant. She told me before she might be, but the day after we got back together it was confirmed, I dont want to abandon her but I dont want her to have this baby, I want to go, but I want to stay. Im not ready for kids, and neither is she. As much as I find myself planning to break up with her, I keep planning my life with her and this child. I dont know if I should stay or if I shouldnt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): Thank you everyone, the thing is, this has happened before except she cheated and at the time, she told me she was raped. She had an abortion thinking it was what I wanted. and I have talked to her, she doesnt really want the father in this childs life, she thinks it would be better to have someone just pop in and out. She wants me in the picture with this, Im just having a hard time coping, I feel the ultimate betrayel even if we werent together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): I think you should stay. You love her, and after all she did tell you she could be pregnant and once it was confirmed you have still been around haven't you? If neither of you are ready for children, why don't you discuss adoption. I'm guessing you probably want her to have an abortion, but for most people that is much much harder. Either way you should discuss it with her. And I really do think you should be together.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (26 April 2010):
 This is a really tough thing to choose since it is obvious that you care about her. It really comes down to whether or not you are ready to be that childs father because that is what you will basically be. If not then even though its hard it would be best not to involve yourself with this. You don't want to have to leave when you're a part of the kids life, its better not to get involved then.
Good luck, I hope your decision isn't too hard on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): I think you should keep your options open.If you aren't ready for a baby why put yourself through that? It isn't your child and to put yourself through all that might be silly. If you really love her maybe you should just take it slowly when the baby comes. See how things work out without getting to attached to the whole thing. Babies take a lot of time and money. Personally I think youd be better off on your own now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): You need to think about the fact that you two did break up for a month and there reasons for that. It's clear that you love her, or you wouldn't be even remotely willing to raise a baby, that isn't yours, with her. So clearly it must have taken a lot for you guys to break up and you need to make sure that the issues that caused the break up are solved. You also need to realize that, since the baby isn't yours, the father is always going to be a factor in your girlfriend and her babies life. If you think you can really handle that and you love your girlfriend enough to get tied into that, then you should stay, but if you have doubts, I think your better leaving, because, at the end of the day, you shouldn't get tied into a relationship that isn't meant to be and it's not fair to tie her into it either. You both deserve better.
(I hope that helped in some way. Good luck)
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