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writes:So it's been over a week since i had the last episode with my boyfriend flip out drinking session...I have been doing good regarding not drinking...I've aplogized many times to him over e-mail and the last time i saw him over a week when i left his house. He says he needs space and thats what i've been giving him. So now what? I just don't like this being left hanging feeling. After 3 years if you don't want to be with me thats fine but why won't he just come out and say it? Close the book. We have a trip planed in nov and it hasn't been canceled. Wouldn't he cancel it first thing if he wanted to end it with me? I'm keeping my distance and keeping busy..doing my own thing. So how much time does he need? Should i contact him? I haven't yet. HELP
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (22 September 2010):
 It's only been one week since your flip out drunk with your boyfriend and you think you're doing good with the whole drinking thing? And you just can't wait any longer because he told you that he needs his space?
I think regulating your emotions, being able to delay gratification, being able to accept responsibility for your behavior and being able to accept someone else's boundaries has not been your strong suit.
You haven't proven anything to yourself or to him. Get off the drink, stay off and show him that you have changed.
He wants out of this relationship with a vitriolic drunk.
You are going to have to accept that. Quit hanging onto the trip thing. Maybe he is taking somebody else...cancel it yourself. You said you aren't working...why do you deserve a trip and a vacation when you should be looking for work? It is that whole responsibility thing you need to work on.
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