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writes: Hi. My boyfriend recently proposed and then took it back two weeks later. He said he couldn't follow through with it. I don't know how to handle this or trust him in the future. I feel he is unsure that he even loves me anymore. He seems very confused. I don't know what I should do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2006): I don't blame you for wondering if you can trust him - his feelings for you, that is.
What's done is done, but it was rather rash of him to propose and then retract the proposal. Shows he really is unsure. He probably is fond of you, but where do you take it from here? Getting engaged is a declaration of intent to marry, at some point - maybe the following year, or within the next few months, but what's the point of being engaged if the engagement were to simply drag on for years?
Maybe it would be a good idea to sit down and have a talk with him, when you are feeling calmer. It could be that he just is a little commitment-phobic right now, but you don't want to put your life on hold indefinitely, waiting for him to decide!
Having said all this, I must add this situation would be vastly different IF YOU HAVE ONLY BEEN DATING FOR A FEW MONTHS. If that is the case, then it is too soon to take such a big step.
Hope it all works out.
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (7 October 2006):
You have to ask him! You cant keep a situation like this in your head otherwise itll tear you apart. Im not a big speaker myself when it comes to someone i like hense me question posted on here but if someone had proposed and the took it back i would be flabergasted. Speak to him without getting angry and just ask him is it too soon does he want to wait a while.
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