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writes:I have been with my partner for over 2 years. We have had a few tough times but have had some of the best times I have ever had. My problem is that he is not as highly sexed as me, I have known this from the start of our relashionship but I was so happy with the rest of it, he made me feel so special and happy. The thing now is that he does not seem to want sex and is happy for lots of cuddles, I have talked to him about this and he said he doesnt have the feelings for sex, he says its not me its just how he feels at the moment.Is this something that can happen we are both 28 so are still young, I love him so much and am understanding of his problem but am so scared he wont get his feeling for sex back.What can I do to help him. Reply to this Question
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 Unless there's an underlying medical condition which I am not an expert on then I can only answer from experience.
I wouldn't dwell on it too much or label it as a problem, this can make it worse. He may have other things on his mind which just places sexual desire in the background temporarily. Making an issue of it can actually make it worse, believe me.
Be patient and perhaps try a different approach when he seems in a more receptive and relaxed mood with no distractions. Maybe be a tease. I'll leave that to your imagination.
Usually it's caused by distractions, worries etc which can be overcome.
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reader, Emily20  +, writes (6 January 2012):
 U dont have to be discourage,the answere is in two options,1.is either u let go of him now,because sex as u know is the number key in every succesful affairs,you have to be sure of what u want,2.or u can teach him how to be active,look for therapies for him and make him what u want,or u can let him go,it is all up to u.
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