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writes: A passionate embrace ignited feelings for my best friend's wife ( his sister is my partner!). I am also good friends with their parents. Only a brief phone call to this lady has occured since. We have agreed not to pursue a relationship as the repercussions would be seismic. All very sensible but I feel empty. I guess I'll get over it. Any further advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2006): Are you people kidding? There is NOTHING he can do to stop himself from being attracted to his friend's wife and vice versa. It's not a matter of making a conscious decision when it comes to attraction. If it's going to happen, it's a natural thing that's going to happen. Try telling gravity not to exert a force towards the center of a body of mass - let me know how that works out for you. If she REALLY was attracted to her husband, his feelings would be negligible and she'd brush it off as 'gross'.
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reader, rabbit +, writes (8 June 2005):
My friend said to me once, partners come and go, but a real friends' friendship is forever.Don't lose a best friend over a girl.
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reader, psychic1 +, writes (7 June 2005):
What a nice guy you are. Don't beat yourselves up over this, but yes, listen to your own common sense. Attraction to another so close is quite natural. Allow yourself to feel the attraction & the desire & be flattered by it,just as she can. But of course you don't want to blow all the years history, trust & compaionship of your bestfriend & your partner by giving into your primal urges. It would be much harder to live with the guilt & remorse than with the desire for eachother.Try very hard not to be alone together. You can still be intimate within a friendship you know. If you really care for your girlfriend, your best friend, their family & her, do what your head is telling you & let your desires pass. If it becomes unbearable, reach deep down into your integrity & break up with this family first & ask her to do the same. At least then you are being as honest as you can. Well done for thinking it through.
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reader, Crazy_About_B +, writes (7 June 2005):
You better get over it. That is your best friend's wife we are talking about. Just keep your mind on your girl and don't try nothing and everything well be all right. Like I always say "There are plenty of fish in the sea"and " There is a man for every woman and a woman for every man; all you have to do is look."
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reader, Your big sis +, writes (6 June 2005):
 Try to avoid this woman unless absolutely necessary. Go find your own potential wife. Although I don't think that's what you're after...seems you're just looking for a quick hop in the sack with a woman you should not have. Some best friend you are! Have you ever had a broken heart? That's the kind of pain you are considering to inflict upon your "best friend". And the passion of forbidden love is not worth the friendship or the good relationship you have with your partner's family. Sounds like you may envy your best friend's life and family. And lastly shame on you, you should know better. Get your own wife and in-laws and maybe you feel so empty.
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