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writes:So last weekend my boyfriend (of a year) and I had a talk. His parents are seperating and he was re-evaluating our relationship, saying that he just doesn't want to end up like them. He says he's worried because we dont seem to have as much fun as we used to, whenever we're just hanging around the house we playfully bicker a lot and get pretty bored nowdays. Says he's worried since we only get to see each other on the weekends due to work and school, and thinks since we're already bored, a little distant and slightly bickering, that what would happen if we lived together all the time? He also thinks maybe we just dont have enough in common, since we dont have as much fun with each other as we do with our friends. We both see we need to work on our communication and things, but I'm still scared and feel kinda shut out sometimes. We have fun when we go out, to basketball games, and take trips to the beach, but for some reason he still seems slightly unhappy all the time to me. He says thats just his natural personality, but I dont know... (btw, we have GREAT sex so I know that isnt the problem haha)Another thing I worry about is I seem to have become rather dependent on him to be happy. Whenever anything's wrong I go into a state of depression, and that really scares me. I also tend to get suspicious, and I'm working on that. I joined a gym this week so I'll have another hobby to get into, but I'm hoping we can do something to fix this before it gets out of hand. I think he notices it too, and says I do get a little clingy sometimes, but we're trying to work it out... I just dont know if our problems are normal, or just a reflection of his parents' having problems, or if we're slowly going downhill and doomed to failure! haI think it's a good sign that we're talking about it though. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Hi, it's me again... We've gone several places to have a weekend to ourselves but it just doesn't seem to be doing the trick.
So last night he called and we talked for a while. He thinks we're both just not as happy as we could be and yet doesn't want to lose me at the same time. I'm about 90% positive we're gonna break up.. just because everytime we talk about it things just seem to get more depressing.
It just sucks though, because I'm so upset all the time now, I keep crying and work and can't even imagine life without him right now.
I sure hope I can handle this breakup when it comes.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Go for a holiday to recharge your batteries. A holiday will make you feel better and closer. Get out of the house and into some outdoor activities that can 'zing' up your dull life.
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