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writes:dear cupid,Im 16 and in a relationship with a guy my age only six months older. we have been together for 10 months...it wil be a year in october. before we stared datin we were like best friends. my parents can tell we really like each other and dont want us to be around each other as much. we love each other and hate that are parents r tryin to do that. i want to know that are we to young to be in love? what advice can u give me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): In my opinion, 16 isn't too young to be "in love," but somethings 16-year-olds think they're "in love" when it's really just sort of an infatuation or simply a desire to have a significant other. However, considering you were best friends before you started dating, it sounds as though you two really are quite serious about each other.
As for dealing with your parents, it's hard when you're not legally old enough to make decisions on your own. Your best bet here is to just talk to them about it and hear their side of the story. Then, you can talk about your opinion and where you're coming from. Do this all maturely, without whining, interrupting or yelling. Maybe your parents just fear you two are doing more "grown up" things like having sex, and they don't like that idea. Or maybe they have other reasoning for their viewpoints. You'll never know unless you ask.
If it's a matter of them just wanting to you to spend less time with your boyfriend, is it such a big deal to you? Maybe they just want some family time with you or they feel you're spending every waking minute with him. If that's the case, be flexible. You and your boyfriend can at least still see each other, and if it's meant to be, seeing each other a little less often won't be an issue.
Best of luck!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (25 August 2010):
 Yes and no..16-17 you're just starting to date properly, the hormones are running high, and your experiencing sex for the first time. It's easy to confuse sex, love, and infatuation all together. It's just a mess. Plus, you guys haven't been together that long in order to experience love. I would give it a couple more years..
On the other hand, some of my friends have married there high school sweetheart but around the age of 20-21..when they are a bit more mature. Then, I've known others that marry their high school sweethearts, have an affair (because all they've ever dated was him) and go on to get a divorce. So it is a possibility, but give it more time and then you can decide for yourself when you're older.
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