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writes:Earlier this year I met this guy and we became friends. There was nothing between us as we were more aquiantances than friends. We exchnaged the odd message now and then but thats pretty much it.Fast forward a few months and we found ourselves in the same place. We hung out a bit and very slowly got it together. Afterwards we called and messaged every day. Despite the distance (500 miles) between us things were developing nicely. We talked about stupid things, serious things, life, dreams etc. We met up a few times and it was great. Then all of a sudden it stopped. He had a few problems at home but being as we're both adults I didn't think this would stop him talking to me. It's been a while since I last heard from him (couple months). I haven't pestered him, just messaged him once to ask why I hadn't heard from him. He said things were crazy at home. The thing is I don't get what happened. He never gave me any reason to doubt him or his intentions. He was always sweet, friendly, polite. We didn't fall out. We also didn't define what we had. To be honest despite the ending, things were pretty perfect. What doesn't make sense is why would you put that much effort into getting to know someone if you didn't want anything from them? I understand that he may have decided he doesn't like me, but I just find it weird that he travelled so far to come and see me if he was just intending to ignore me after. Any ideas? Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): hey i was thinking of doing this to my long distance freind, so to give you a perception from a guys point of view, i am probably going to cut contact with her because of what 'aunt honesty' said, "e he couldnt cope with the distance and therefore stopped things before he could fall for you anymore" I am finding it hard to keep the commuincation up and not being able to see her, i miss her terribly and i guess letting go and cutting contact is a better option. So maybe this is what your guy freind is doing? as aunty honesty said there could be several reasons, but this is my reason and im giving you a perspective into what could also be his, which im pretty sure it wuold be. Why waste all that time for nothing? but as i said, cutting contact would be because it hs to uch to continue... Somehow you have to bridge the gap. But you must email/msg him ask pour your heart out and hope to hear back from hmi and im sure you will :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 October 2010):
 Hmm yes this is a tricky one, maybe he couldnt cope with the distance and therefore stopped things before he could fall for you anymore or maybe its possible he met someone else and slowly cut you from his life and never told you to stop from hurting you.
It could be many reasons but am afraid only he can answer your question so why dont you contact him and ask him what happened? Tell him you were really enjoying getting to know him and talking to him and you were wondering what changed in his opinion for him to become so distant. Hopefully he will give you the answer that you need hun. Goodluck.
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