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anonymous
writes:hey im in a weird position with my boyfriend and i dont know what to do. Well my boyfriend use to sleep with alot of girls before he met me but he chose me to settle down with and i got over his past since he dint talk or hang out with any of the girls he slept with except one. He was in a relationshep with this girl and they slept togather and sometime during they found out they were 3rd cousins and than ended it right away. I dont like thinking about the girls he slept with and i hate it when he talks or hangs out with her but i cant say any thing because shes "family" he alreays has the feeling i dont like her and gets mad about that. But his bestfriend even told me that my bf said she was the best girl he ever slept with besides me. Plus when we first dated we were all playing a question game and it was like if you could be with any one and not the person your with now who would it be and he said his cousins name. I got over it though because we been togather for along time now and even have plans of getting married its just how am i supposed to think of he cousin as family when he slept with her and dated her? thank you for your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): if you two are talking of getting married then surely he is over her and loves you even if they are friends you and you're boyfriend share something more than they ever will. just remeber he is with you not her and even though its a bit weird that they are related she is inhis past and you'er in his futur , hope i helped
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (29 August 2012):
 I am kind of confused on what you are asking. First, if they are 3rd cousins and see one another at family get-togethers, you can't do much about it. However, if he is seeing her outside of family gatherings as a romantic interest, then that is wrong. He should not be seeing her in any other respect besides family gatherings. If he is, that is time he is taking away from you and your relationship with him.
In terms of him sleeping with her...as long as he isn't doing it now, you're just going to have to deal with it if you want to be with him. Everyone has a past and there is nothing you can do about it...whether it was with a 3rd cousin or not. If they're like our family, they probably didn't even know they were 3rd cousins. I could not tell you who my 3rd cousins are right now.
Let it go unless there are signs that he is still after her and then confront him about it.
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