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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for over two years now, and living together for a year. He's my first long-term relationship so I don't have much experience.I went on an exchange program to Japan last year and that's when it all started. I was supposed to stay from September to August, 1. One day, in December, we were talking on the phone about a theater experience he just had with a group of his sister's friends. He told me that, contrary to what we had discussed a few weeks earlier, he wouldn't be able to be with me when I came back, because he wanted to go on a two-weeks acting vacation with his new friends, the date of which happened to match with my ticket home. I told him then that I was okay with him, though I wasn't, because I didn't want to fight on the phone. Truth is, I felt as if he was choosing people he'd known for a few months over me. As of now, we've talked about it several times and I told him how I felt. But when he has a choice to make, he still always chooses them over me. Just tonight, we were supposed to go to a movie after he'd spent the afternoon with them talking acting, but he preferred calling me off to stay and have dinner with them. So I'm still like I come in the second place. So, my question is : Am I overreacting ? Am I giving this too much thinking ? And if not, what can I do ? Should I confront them, and him ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): No just confront him - ask who he wants to be with - my guess its them.
Either he wants to be with you or them - seems its them for now. It might not be 100% them, but only one way to find out
Talk to him and see. Set some rules...e.g. 2 nights with them...
Star.x.
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