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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:So after months of asking to see me again, I decided to go on another date with a guy I saw over the summer. We were only seeing each other (not serious), but he ended things when an ex came back in the picture. I knew he liked me (and still does). Well, things didn't work out with his ex. She apparently left him for the guy she was seeing. When we were on our date, I said a joke that he would leave midway through the date to be with her. He didn't laugh and said he didn't want to talk about it. The date went on, and we had a lot of fun. Eventually, we were laughing about something, when he said, 'We should just blame her.' I don't know why he said that, but then I brought it up again. That's when he told me she went back to the guy she was seeing. They only saw each other for a couple of days and were never officially back. I asked him if he considered me a rebound from her and he said no, because he met me two months after things ended between them and he thought of 'us' like boyfriend/girlfriend. He said he was confused and he still doesn't know why he went back to her in the first place.The rest of the date went on, and things went great again. He was a true gentleman the entire night- he really made sure I was having fun and anything I wanted to do, he made sure it happened. The thing is: I'm still not sure if I'm just a rebound girl. Any advice?
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (11 January 2010):
 You arent his rebound girl really. It sounds as if he regards you more as a friend. Hes obviously still stuck on her. If he wants to take things further with you, just bare in mind he is a bit of a risk regarding his ex because he still loves her. That was proved by him going back to her. Or attempting too! Bless him. Just be a pal but dont do the whole sex thing unless you are really sure hes over her. All the best x
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