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writes:Hello,Firstly I figured it might be worth writing that I wrote this other question a week or so ago so that I do not have to repeat myself;"http://www.dearcupid.org/question/forced-to-watch-her-in-relationships-right-in.html".This question is simply a trivial thought that has been occupying my mind for far too long. I just can't seem to come to a decision. Basically this is concerning the girl mentioned in the previous question. Her birthday is coming up soon and I am unsure of how to act. I purchased her a present from a website months ago so that I wouldn't forget for when the time came. Although not overly expensive, primarily due to being purchased from the internet, it is likely to be more indulgent than what many of her other friends will give her, if they purchase her anything at all as it is not common for us to get each other gifts. I also bought her a present at Christmas which was of little actual value but it had taken a lot of thought. She appeared to like out of politeness, but I know she has never used it. I have never received any gifts or cards from her, except for a single postcard from her last holiday abroad. I know friendship is not a competition, especially when it comes down to material gifts, but I can't help but feel somewhat cheated. She has always maintained that she values me as one of her closest friends but I am a firm believer that actions speak louder than words, and it doesn't seem to me like she has ever gone too far out of her way to do anything for me. I am away for her birthday and so the only way I can get her present to her is to deliver it by hand, something which will take some effort. This is what I am worried about since she may well spot how much effort I have put in, and this will cause me to feel embarrassed. I don't want to remind her that I have feelings for her.Yet on the other hand, I think I am just being selfish. You should treat others how you wish to be treated yourself, regardless of their actions, right? And then what will become of my present? It is no good to me nor anybody else I know.I feel like a chump for even writing this question but hopefully I can come to a conclusion on this subject quickly and stop thinking about it. If I don't decide soon then time will make the decision for me!Thank you for reading my question! :)
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reader, Griim +, writes (12 May 2009):
Griim is verified as being by the original poster of the question You're not wrong satindesire! Although I do not know why you cannot see my previous question with the link provided, it works just fine for me!
I just wondered if this was overstepping the mark or not. I'm past trying to impress her, or so I thought. I just wanted to show her that I can be a decently thoughtful friend but it would be easy for my intentions to be wrongly misinterpreted. I guess it seems obvious now but I have a tendency to over think these things. Damnit.
Thank you for your help! I browse this website a lot and always like your answers. Rated up! :)
(PS. I like how this is tagged as "Big Questions". Hahaha.)
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