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writes: i was at a friends 18th and i met this guy there, we clicked and we really like each other, he's from a country town about 300 km away doing a college course, we ended up sharing an armchair all night and didn't kiss till morning (thats all we did), i'm 18 and he's 19 but he has a 28 year old girlfriend with a kid of her own (not his) back in his home town, i know i shouldn't have done it and i feel bad about it, but niether of us regret it, he wants to keep in contact and stuff, but i dont want to be just a fling and i don't want to be the reason for a breakup for many reasons but now i dont know what to do, please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2006): find out what his plans are for his relationship back home and take it from there. you are only going to get to the bottom of this once you have spoken to him. you could simlpy of been a little fling or a more serious relationship could develop. dont see him while he is with the other girl tho wait till he breaks it off with her then you have a clear conscience. good luck
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reader, bridget +, writes (6 April 2006):
 Hey there anon,
I hope my advice helps you..
Firstly, you are putting alot of strain on yourself for the
sake of this relationship you have here and you must
remember that you are the innocent party here..
You have to talk to him and see things from his point of view, this way you will find out where you stand with
this relationship...
Maybe he just wants a bit of fun or maybe he sees more potential in you than his own partner back home... All you did was kiss and you are not to blame here, he is though and you have to get the Communication Barriers up yet again, and get the conversations about your problem flowing...
I undertsand its better said than done but in the long run its the better most effective way of finding out where you stand with the relationship, and that is important for you to know so that if its not anything, then you can have closure and move along with your life...
Good Luck
Jacqueline
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