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writes:I think ive only been in love once before, i have a general knowledge of the feelings that come with it. Recently i have noticed a subtle feeling for one of my good friends. And i cant tell if this is just serious platonic love for that person, or if i am in love with them. We tell each other that we love each other all the time, like 'omg i love you' and things like 'you're amazing' 'what would i do without you?' im starting to feel really confused. He's recently gone on holiday and will be gone for a month and i cried a lot when he left. I feel like ive lost my right arm. How do i know if this is definitely love or is there no way to really define 'love' Should i just assume that we're just really good friends. I'm sorry if this is a bit of an unanswerable or vague question, but i could really use some advice. Please and Thank you =]
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reader, nadia07  +, writes (30 July 2010):
Hmm... It is hard to define 'love' exactly. But I know from experience that love is not merely saying 'I love you' and all that stuff. Sometimes love stems from a good friendship, I know mine did. My first love was initially my senior in my degree course, then we became friends, then we became good friends, then we became lovers. He did not say lovey-dovey words that much, rather he showed more through his actions how much he loved and cared about me. My heart raced when I was with him, and even when I didn't see him for a day, I missed him like crazy. I was sad when he's sad, I was happy when he's happy and I would be with him through the thick and thin. When you can sacrifice your own happiness for him, then I can easily say that you LOVE him. And if he can do the same for you, then he definitely LOVES you. :)
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