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writes: I have always been the person everyone relies on, always there to give advice and help whereever I could. My husband said that I was a pushover and did too much for everyone in my family and with my friends. I do have a hard time saying "NO" to my friends when they need me. About a year ago, I become very ill and was in and out of the doctors' offices and hospitals. They told me I had to stop getting so stressed so I had to learn to say No to everyone. My treatments leave me very tired and depressed. It was so hard on me but, now I feel like no one was there for me. I am hurt and I never hear from anyone. It's like they all forgot that I exist. Even my husband isn't supportive of me now. I had to quit my job and I am now a stay at home mom. And I really miss being with my friends and talking to adults. I didn't stop being friends with anyone, I just started saying, "I really can't do..." this or that and always in a nice way. Why am I being given the cold shoulder by everyone now? Is it me and I am being too needy? I have not asked for help with my illness or pity, I just want to have my friends and my family be there for me the way I have been for them. I feel very alone and that my kids are the only thing holding me together. What can I do to get my family and friends back? I need someone to support me.
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reader, msmcllstr +, writes (26 April 2005):
i am going through the same kind od thing. i feel that i am constantly helping others out of either financial problems or emotional problems yet when i need help with my problems no one is there. this used to bother me but no iv started to say no and even though i hate having to let people down theyve realised that i cant always be there for them and theyre actualy starting to deal with their problems by themselves.
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