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writes: im 21 and 3months pregnant with twins.the babies fateher ia an ex of mine and we use to live together, we split up at the end of january but remained good friends by seeing each other and being in contact everyday.but a month ago when i told him i was pregnant by him he turned nasty saying he doesnt want me in his life and has ignored my calls,txts ever since,i am shocked how he has changed so quick.i dont want him back as a boyfriend i want him as a friend and support for the twins but i cant get through to him.do i just leave him and except im on my own?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): "would realy like a mans advice on this"
The only thing I can suggest to you is that this guy is utterly petrified of being a dad and has chosen to run away from the problem because he can't handle it.
I don't know if this would be good advice at all(!) but I'd be tempted to text him saying "How are you going to feel when your children find out you ran out on us?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): Hey I'm a man, and here's what I reckon is happenin'.
He probably doesn't want kids and is really pissed at this problem coming into his life. Hence his behaviour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwould realy like a mans advice on this
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reader, cfliberal +, writes (15 May 2006):
I'll give you the same advice I give every woman who gets pregnant and decides to keep the baby (or in your case babies) with an unwilling father in the picture. You have to be prepared to do this on your own. Children do not tie a man to you other than through DNA. If he does not want to be a father to the kids, no law will compel him to do so other than financially. Line up another support system, be ready to take him to court, and don't be surprised if he tries to avoid paying child support.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (15 May 2006):
 The guy is not worthy of your time so just ignore him. However make sure that you pursue him for financial support for your children as twins don't come cheap! He maybe just in shock about being a Dad at the moment and may come around to the idea in time but right now don't stress about it - worry about looking after yourself, you need to rest and eat properly and look forward to having two lovely babies :-) Good luck.
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