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writes:I met a guy online on RSVP and we went on 2 dates. it turns out we actually have some mutual friends and have been to a lot of the same parties so were not complete strangers after all. The thing that bothers me is that after only 2 dates he has said he thinks he is falling in love with me. Should I run a mile? to me two dates does not seem enough to develop those sort of feelings and i worry he may be mentally unwell. on the flip side he is a lovely person and we have had two fantastic dates but im really put off by the early use of the L WORD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): hi im the original author of the question my code is 6B615AA74B.
Thanks for your advice. I have decided to call things off completley with this guy. I know what he said wasn't insulting and far worse things could happen to a person.
I feel that someone who falls in love that easily will also get hurt easily if things go bad and I dont want to be responsible for that type of a persons feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): He sounds impulsive, guys that fall in love this fast fall out of love just as quickly....usually, although I work with a woman who is in her late 40's and she met a man roughly her age and after two months of dating they are engaged and getting married, even have a date set....although once you get to be that age, it is not that weird because you know what you want, and when it just clicks and feels right, you don't need to date a year to decide to marry, you know how to commit and you mean to make a life with someone and you have the means to do it.
When you are in your 20's, it is a little different, this I think I am falling in love with you is his infatuation talking and he must think you are very attractive....if you want to see where things go, then I would tell him ...whoaaaa, boy.....slow down, you don't know me well enough to know if you are falling in love.....but I also think men know right away how they see you, but most don't say it that early, they know better, they know from experience they could have it all wrong and they take the L word much more seriously, others don't though, they tell everyone they like they love them....this annoys me, and I myself don't like it.
Just trust your own instincts about him and don't let yourself fall too quickly in return until you have figured him out.....
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (5 April 2008):
 I wouldnt say mentally unwell but he does seem to be getting a bit carried away with his feelings. I'm pretty sure its not love, just infatuation which does feel a lot like love! Keep seeing him, its not like he insulted you or punched you or anything lol I mean there are worse things he could've done! If he's a nice guy and you got on well it would be a shame to end it all because he likes you so much. But i would tell him he's coming on a little bit strong and you'd rather relax, have fun with no pressure and you dont wanna rush into things with him.take careBrookex
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