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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years and he tells me he loves me but sometimes it's hard for me to really believe him. He rarely ever compliments me, but he will always be the first to point out a "hot" girl at the club or bar. Whenever I go out in public with him I always feel like I'm the ugliest girl there. I always assume he's looking at other women and comparing them to me. I know it's only natural for a man to check out other females because humans have eyes for a reason, we're suppose to use them. Before I was with him I was very confident and always felt beautiful with or without the need of compliments or reassurance. Now after being with him my self esteem has fallen to an all time low. I never feel like I'm good enough because I'm not his "ideal." All his past relationships were with girls who were small, under 5'3", very petite women weighing less than 110 lbs. I am tall, 5'7", and I wear heels all the time, making me 5'10" - 5'11", and I have large breasts and a big butt, making me weigh well over 110 pounds at 140 lbs. And he has told me before I would be much prettier if I lost 10 pounds. Anyway, I'm not sure what to do. I've told him how I felt about this and he just tells me I'm crazy. When I bring it up, he always says, "Don't think that way, you are pretty." Is he being honest with me or is he just saying I'm pretty to make me feel better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): oh gal its sad and i understand what you are talking aboutbut do not allow yourself to think like that if you are not good enough for him why is he with you, you are beautiful the way you are and if that's the way he makes you feel that is probably the way he feels about himself.
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