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writes:i really like my friend, she rejected me nicely and said she doesn't feel the same. 3 months later i'm still crazy. I cant help it. I wish she liked me. My other friend liked this girl for ages, she hated him, but she gave him a try and they are goin out. Mines exactly the same situation, could i be lucky if she changes her mind! I just wish i could kiss her randomly and blow her mind, as i got nothin to lose! But how? She clearly doesn't like me. Yes i know there's a million girls out there, but i cant help it, a thing inside me which beats blood around called heart won't let me get over her. Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, SamuraiRick  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 You have what is called youth and a lot of years ahead of you. The women in your future will help you forget the ones that reject you in the past.
This girl who is your friend has put you in the "friend" category long ago. Sucks doesn't it. You're Ducky and she is Molly Ringwald. If you have such romantic feelings for her the best thing you should do is break up as friends. Don't see or talk to her anymore.
This I say to you and all the other Duckys in the world. STOP being her friend! It only serves to hurt you more by being in her presense. This is just like breaking up with a girlfriend. You dont just break up with a girlfriend and still see her! You quit her, she quits you, and you part ways.
It doesn't mean you all of sudden be mean to her. Just talk to her let her know your feelings and go your own way.
By stopping the friendship, you accomplish two things. One: you get over her. Two: if she ever wants to have a relationship with you in the future she is already advised it can only be as lovers not just friends. The only way she can see you as a potential lover is by eliminating you as a friend. By helping her eliminate you as a friend she is put on notice...
This is pure human nature. Your desire for her in an intimate way will never go away. Her desire for you is not there....but with time and distance, who knows, she may see you in a different light. Go out with other girls. Make her see that you are a good guy for a girl to be with and you never know if she might come crawling back to you. I'm not saying you should count on this to happen, but it will never happen if you play the role of Ducky.
In case you're wondering who Ducky is go rent Pretty in Pink. You don't want to be Ducky. In the movie Ducky ends up with another girl, so it worked out for him (but everybody damn well knows he would have rather hooked up with Molly)
Peace OUT!
Be Kind and Rewind!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Oh you poor thing!
I'd say accept it. Accept that she might not be interested in you in a romantic way. Forget about the friend she didn't like and still gave him a chance. Maybe she didn't hate him all that much if she decided to go out with him.
Go out with other girls. Go out on dates, get to know more people around you. You and she are still friends, if she changes her mind then you'd be around anyways.
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