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writes:Once again this might not be the most appropriate site to ask this, but here goes!A family friend, whom I'll call Joe, does some work for my elderly mother, for pay. Joe is about 45 and while not the smartest fellow has always seemed honest.Two weeks ago I noticed something was wrong with her push mower and asked Joe if he had made any adjustments to it. "Oh no, I haven't used the mowers all summer," he told me, which I knew wasn't true. I later discovered that something was also wrong with her riding mower, which he had also used.My problems are that he does not take criticism well at all and that my mom likes him and would never fire him.So do you think that based on this I should assume that he is not so trustworthy in other areas? (Like money.)Thanks!
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reader, guillaume  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Hi,
Thanks for posting this question! It's like a philosophy question I'm delighted to attempt.
Well, the main issue for you is the loss of trust. If you are SURE that he has touched those mowers, then that leads to Joe being dishonest. OK, you have the element of doubt.
However, ask ourselves "does his loss of trust entail every aspect of life?" For example, money or items in the home.
I'm wondering why he chose to deny touching those mowers? Perhaps he didn't. But you are certain he did so then he lied.
I think for you, you must tread carefully, don't upset your mum but be vigilant with him and at least be onto him if other things get touched.
If he is messing with those mowers then he shouldn't be. Accidents could happen. Make it clear he is not to touch them or any other items unless he asks permission. If there are faults with items, then he is to let you know so you can deal with them.
Best wishes, G.
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