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anonymous
writes:How close should best friends be without looking wierd? How to show our love as friends, but not in any sexual way. In regards to:- hugging- kissing-holding hands- sleeping together- wanting to be close to each other- etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): That eddie guy is right and you may be lesbian and not have known it up until now. It sounds as if your friend feels the same way too, which makes this all a whole lot easier. I know youre worried about feeling weird, but seriously, i grew up in a town full of lesbians where i started feeling weird for being straight, and i go to college with a gazillion gay guys, so yet again i feel like the odd one out. If you are an amazing person, you may be able to easily accept that you are either bi or lesbian, but that doesnt usually happen..The one thing you dont want to do is have one person in this friendship scare the other one off by being so comfortable with their new discovery while the other is still possibly fighting it. It sounds like a cute relationship already, even from your bullet pointed list, so I say go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): The question you are trying to ask is where is the line if it is not sexual relationship? Hugging and holding of hands doesn't cross the line for me especially for females. Kissing on the lips or more crosses the line to sexual relationship. Two people sleeping in the same bed and just to sleep is ok, but when it includes touching, again to me it crosses the line. The question you have to ask yourself: is it about how you feel or how you look? Do both of you have a common understanding of your relationship, i.e. close friends or sexual friends? You should do what makes you feel happy. If looking gay makes you feel uneasy, you know what to do. But if what looks like a sexual relationship is what makes you happy, then you will have to turn a blind eye to what people think.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 Well it sounds to me that perhaps the people involved are actually homosexual. These are supposed to be all the things people do before they actually have sex. Why does this person feel the "need" to be so close to a friend. You say you don't want to look weird but in fact, it would look weird because it is not common for people to act this way.
Women tend to be more touchy feely with their friends but the rest of the stuff in the list tells me it's more than friendship. Are these people struggling with the possibility they might be gay.
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