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writes:There is this guy that I like, he is gorgeous, kind, he's 5 years older than me but we have loads in common. I know he likes me back and we've talked about dating. This sounds fantastic I know, but there is one problem; he lives almost 200 miles away. I would love to have a relationship with him, because I really do like him, but he says that he can't offer a reltionship because it will be a strained one and difficult. I know he is right, but part of me hopes that is could work, I know that I would be commited to the relationship. What can I do and what is your opinion on the situation?? Please help, I am really frustrated. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): True love knows no distance, believe me. If both people are willing to invest the time and effort necessary to make a long distance relationship work, the emotional rewards are immeasureable. I won't lie: not being able to see your sweetheart whenever you want to can be painful indeed at times. But with have more ways to keep in touch than ever before (email, IM, text, phone and of course, good old fashioned snail mail!), the miles between you become insignificant. And when you're finally reunited, to say you're in Heaven would be to put it mildly! An LDR demands a lot of trust, commitment and sincerity - but aren't those some of the factors which the strongest relationships are built on? Read this article: http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Long-Distance-Relationship-Work and further discuss the idea of it with him. Can a relationship be maintained over 200 miles? With patience, honesty and, most of all, love on both sides... without a doubt :) Take care and good luck!
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reader, blondie_1991 +, writes (14 March 2011):
I am in a very similar situation. I am with someone who is over 200 miles away. I am away studying at university and he is at univeristy also and has training commitments every weekend so since xmas we have not been able to see each other, but we talk all the time, are completly honest with each other, and trust each other. I will be going home for the holidays in a few weeks and we are going to see how things progress. Basically, I personally think if the 2 of you are willing to put the effort in then it can work and can be amazing, but both people have to put the effort in and not pretend its going to be easy.. Yes its difficult, one of the most difficult things knowing that you cant be with each other all the time and when you have a bad day you can't just go round to his to feel better, but we have phones, webcams, social networkin etc that all make it alot easier. its all down to what you make it. and after all, they do say that abscence makes the heart grow fonder....hope this helps and it all works out for you both xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2011): What kind of relationship are you looking for? 200 miles is a looooong ways away. Would you be ok falling asleep at night without his strong arms around you to hold you tight? To not be able to feel his tender touch as he kisses your forehead as you're about to trickle off to sleep? When you're having a bad day he wont be able to stand by your side and help you fight your battles or fix your car when it breaks down on the side of the freeway.
Is that the kind of relationship/life you want??? Life is going to pass you by and all you will be doing is missing him, wanting him, and waiting for him. Not to mention how long are you able to go abstaining from sex? Every woman has her needs. Personally I wouldn't be able to handle the sexual frustration and possibly the temptations around me. And how well do you know him? How do you know he wont be out giving in to his own temptations with women thrusting their bodies upon him. Wheres he living anyway? Do you know the type of women hes surrounding himself with? Are they classy? Are they skanky? Are they ready to wreck a perfectly good relationship? Honey, lets face it...you can't control what happens 200 miles away! Are you ready to face the sleepless nights wondering, crying?
On the other hand, if you really love him, love conquers all! Whatevers meant to be will be!
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