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writes:Hi, something really weird is happening to me. I am 25 years old. I had my very first sexual encounter at 19 years old. It was with my high school boyfriend. We went our separate ways after this and now 6 years later we are in contact again. During these years of separation he has always tried to reach out to me but I kept my distance treating him more like a stranger than a friend.Now we are back in touch again - after he has expressed to me that he never stopped loving me and want us to be friends. The problem is - now I am having desires for him. I know I don't want to be involved with him as he is married and I am in a relationship.I will not become involved with a married man, neither will I sabotage my current relationship.But why am I feeling this way? He was my first love and I have only been with one other person since being with him. Why do I get excited when I hear from him? What does this all mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): I cannot imagine how frustrating this must be for you. I think that you should just take some time and let things run its course. Hopefully your desires will subside and you will remain good friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): you can get prepared. responders are going to run with this question. i think its because he was your first love. and he was your first everything. have you ever heard of a statement that says if you love something set it free if it comes back if was meant to be. i believe that. i didn't until it came up in my life. good luck.
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reader, benjamin1982  +, writes (21 April 2009):
This means love holds no boundaries and unfortunately it is a fact of life that we can't help who we are attracted to.
However, do you really think this relationship could work?
Imagine the grief of losing your current relationship - Imagine the grief he will have losing his marriage. In fact you would both have a lot of drama associated with starting a relationship together that would place strain on the relationship itself.
Your families could possibly turn thier backs on you - not to mention the families of your ex/divorcies.
What if you guys had an affair? Do you really think you could do that? All the hiding and then going back to your partners having to pretend you still love them? How about watching him go back to his wife?
However if it really is true love - true love holds no boundries.
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