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41-50,
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writes:Hey, So my best friend and I are both in our early 30's, and I have fallen for him. It was a gradual thing, he is very affectionate and attentive and after a year of feeling this way I told him I liked him as "more than a friend" a few months ago.He says he isn't in the right place for a relationship just now and that he never wants to hurt me. But straight after that he went straight back to cuddles, holding my hand and affectionate kisses - nothings changed. I struggle to explain what is going on to my family and friends who just assume we are perfect together.I love him, but this is hurting me as I dont know whether theres ever a chance of this working out, and having already taken a huge chance in telling him how I feel I'm scared to lose my best friend by pushing this.He has some health issues and is very inexperienced with women if this makes a difference.Appreciate all opinions, I'm frustrated here!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (16 April 2009):
 He's getting love and affection from you and all the attention he needs so why be exclusive with you? You need to introduce some boundaries into this friendship. Rule number 1. Friends DON'T kiss and cuddleRule number 2. Friends DON'T have affectionate kissesRule number 3. Friends DON'T hold hands when they're outIf you can be strong and abstain from doing this with him and remind him when he goes to do it (even although it will be difficult for you as you like doing it) then I think you will reap the benefits. Give it a go, you'll see the difference.~Eve~
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