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anonymous
writes:My ex broke our relationship off some 6 months ago. Although I feel heaps better than I did, I genuinely feel that I will never 100% get over the way he treated me. He had been with his ex for 5 years and was having trouble getting over it. Throughout this time, I was the most amazing friend to him. I had known this guy for years. When he told me he was over her, and wanted me to be his g/f I was thrilled. However, he said he would respect my decision to take time to decide if I wanted that (I thought that was so sweet). 2 weeks later, after much thought and discussion with him, he told me he wanted a serious relationship with me and that he was falling for me. I realise now that all I was to him was a fling and I feel like I was lied to and duped at every turn. I felt like a consolation prize, whereas his ex (who is a nasty piece of work) is on a pedestal. That desperately hurts like nothing I have ever been through. I told him I didn't do friends with ex's before we got together because he was concerned he would lose me if it didn't work out. I have severed all contact with him. He always said about his previous girlfriends of less than 3 months, then they meant nothing to him at all which would put me in that bracket. I can't believe he destroyed our friendship all for a fling.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 That sure hurts. He was not a real friend if he could mistreat you like that. However, I think you should get over him. You know, when you keep thinking about the bad things people did to you, you never stop suffering. Focus on something else and in some time you'll be 100% over him, too.
Cheer up and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007): Hi darling,
You are strong, and you have acted that way. Its so hard to loose both a boyfriend and a friend all in one go. But hunny you have done really well and if you ask me its his loss more than yours, he should be kicking himself right now, at least you no what kind of friend he really was and you can move on with your head held high you did everything to help him he really isnt worth your worry love your to good for him TAKE CARE OF YOU LOTS OF LOVE XXXXXXXX
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