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writes:I'm feeling very sad today, I don't know why, the thought of my ex keeping coming to my head, I can't seem to shake it off. It has been 3 months since he broke up with me. I've tried almost everything to block the thought of him, I went out shopping, watched tv, listened to music, walked/played with my dog, talked to friends, etc...... no help..... I'm just not in the mood of doing anything tody, I don't feel like talking to anyone.... I've tried so hard to think of all the reasons why he wasn't good for me.... I thought I've been doing ok lately, although I still think of him everyday, but today the feeling of missing him so much is unbearable, I have the urge of contacting him... but I know I can't. Please help me !! How can I shake off the thought of him ??? Why am I feeling this way ????
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reader, Spanner28  +, writes (11 January 2009):
 You aren't alone darling. I left the love of my life over a week ago and my heart still skips a beat when I talk to him or see him on MSN. 3 months may be a long enough period of time to get over someone you once loved but to the rest of us it still feels like yesterday that it happened. It is obvious you are still feeling raw about the breakup, that is to be expected.Unfortunately after a break up, no matter how hard we try to move on and keep ourselves busy, our ex always pops into our heads which leads us to have these off days that you are experiencing. The thing most people dont realise, is that these days can actually help in the healing process. If we didnt miss our ex every now and then, then it wasnt much of a relationship. Sadly there is no miracle cure for these off days but i feel that crying and reminiscing about the good times actually helps! If you cry out all your sadness today then you will feel so much better tomorrow.Trust me when I say this but crying can actually be the answer to so many of our problems x
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reader, huneygyrl  +, writes (11 January 2009):
 Let me just say, I know how you feel. Yes, it is going to be hard not to contact him but be strong. Did you dial the number and then hang up the phone before the phone rings on his side? When you get to that point, call a family member, a close friend.
Dizzkat is right, try the gym, it's an open setting for communication with part of the outside world. While you're getting into shape, maybe you'll meet someone there.
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reader, dizzikat +, writes (11 January 2009):
You could try the gym - a real good physical workout works for me - the mind doesn't have any space left for thoughts. If you're not a member of a gym just try a good old fashioned run count your breaths/ pace etc ... tomorrow is another day
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