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writes:I am so confused right now. I was having a discussion with my boyfriend about "what makes him different from other guys I've dated". I told him that I was going to be 100% honest, and when he asked the question, I said that he was nicer then my last ex I had. He then asked, "is that it?" And I said yeah. I said my ex did the same things for me that my current does, except my current is nicer. How is that wrong? I was being honest.....
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Haha, if my boyfriend just said "you're nicer" I would be upset too! I guess when we ask that question, we are expecting a more grand answer.
You weren't wrong in being honest, I'm sure he wanted to know the real reason, but I bet if you added more to your answer, he would have been happier. I mean, being nice is important (no one wants a jerk), but his guy ego (understandably) wanted a bigger answer =)
Try again - think more deeply about why he's better than other guys, and tell him you want to add to your former answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): These talks never end well..
I think he was expecting something a little more than that. Perhaps more along the lines of ''you are better in bed, you swept me off my feet, you are the best things ever or even you are better than everyone else in the history of the world''.
On a serious note, I think it was your wording. I think just telling him that he is 'nice' might seem okay to you but I think he just needs some reassurance that he means a lot more and that he stands out and is special to you in a way that another guy wasn't to you before. So although there was nothing wrong with your answer, I think perhaps you should have been a bit kinder and given him something to smile about.
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